Parents...

Ever felt irritated by your parents' nagging? Ever felt that your parents don't trust you? Ever felt that you don't have freedom? Ever felt that they totally don't understand you? Read on and find out why...

The reaason why parents nag at you IS SIMPLY because they care about you. Did you ever find your neighbour nagging at you? NO. Did you ever find the bus driver nagging at you. NO. This is because they do not care about you, what you do is none of their business. If your parents, care about you, what in the hell give you the right to talk back at them? Put yourself in their shoes ( although the size might not fit), would you want your child to talk back at you, give u those kp faces when you care about them? No right?

Their care for you is born out of their love for you. LOVE. This word is so powerful that I have never dared to use it in my whole life. Liking a girl does'nt mean you love the girl. If you love the girl, you will be willing to sacrifice your life for her... Do you know how much your parents love you? How much time and energy and $ they have spent on you? They love you so much that they are willing to sacrifice their lifes just for YOU... Talking back to a person who care and love you so much isn't the nicest thing to do...

I seriously believe parents are the most noble peoples on earth. They bring you into this world, bring you up, spend the rest of their life caring for you. Their final wish is simply seeing you get a good job and a good future. All of this, without any grumbles... Instead, they get grumbles from you...

The next time they nag at you, put yourself in their perspective, understand why they are nagging at you. You will find out that it is all be'cose they care about you... So don't talk back at your parents anymore...

Ever felt that they do not trust you? Ever felt that they are always doubting your words? The reason behind this is = They lost your trust.

Trust, this is another big word. Trust can't be bought, can't be measured. It can only develop slowly over time. Would you lend your money to a random passer-by? No. But would you lend your close friend money when he is in need? Yes. All be'cose you trust him.

Trust develops over a period of time, and it is very fragile. All it takes is for 1 lie to destroy 10 years of TRUST...

Your parents do not trust you? Then ask yourself, have you lied to them? Have you done things that will affect their trust in you? If yes, then blame yourself for it. The only way to regain their trust in you is to be frank with them, don't lie to them anymore.

Tell them the truth and hope that they can understand you. If they object your decision, then don't do it. They don't want you do do smth is be'cose they think it is not good for you. It is be'cose they care about you and they think wat you are planning to do is not appropriate. Try to explain to them but DO NOT lie to them. As the chinese saying goes " They have eaten more salt then you have eaten rice" Trust them as they have been at your age before, they know what is best for you... Don't argue with them, explain to them... If you are rejected, then just live with it, rmb, this is becose they care about you.

Moving on, FREEDOM. No freedom? As I have stated, you need to have TRUST to be able to have freedom. If they trust you, you will then be able to have more freedom, more space...

Ever felt that they do not understand you at all? Of course! They are not you, why should they be able to understand you? Instead, you should try and explain to them, communicate with them so that they can get to know you better, what you need, what you want. Don't blame them for not understanding you. You should also take things from their perspective, why is my child unable understand my concern for him?

"Take an extra step to know them better and they may know you better too."

The only way to improve mutual understanding is to communicate and to try and understand each other.

As most of you guys should know, I'm always on bad relationship with my parents. Why have I suddenly become like this?

After the league match against Weekend Warriors, we PLANNED to play overnight lan. I was planning to lie to my parents that I have fallen asleep at my friends house. But when my mum called me, she was worried and CONCERN about me. Anxious. So I decided that I should go home instead. It was 12.15 when I reached home, I saw my dad waiting for me on the sofa. Half asleep, half awake. I was so touched. He was so worried for me that he stayed awake just to wait for my return. I dare not imagine what will happen if I did not go home that night...

My parents also called Mr Han to discuss with him about my CCA matters. About me commiting too much on my CCA and not putting effort in my studies. I should be pissed right? Why interfere with my CCA? But then if you look at things from their perspective, all they want me to do is to work hard in my studies. They care about me and why should I be pissed with them?

What parents do are always for our good. Instead of being fillial to our parents, some of us even talk back at them. Now think again, what give you the god damn right to talk back at these people who CARE and LOVE about you. These people who brought you up?

This is a serious topic, no jokes about it on the tagbox.

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